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“Are you high or low functioning?”
“Do you have any needs I should be aware of?”
“Why don’t you make eye contact?”
“How do you like to communicate: talking, texting, memes?”
“You don’t seem autistic.”
“What helps you feel safe and supported in overwhelming environments?”
“You just need to come out more!”
“Want to sit quietly near each other like emotionally secure raccoons?”
“Why are you so sensitive?”
“Would you like advice or just someone to listen?”
“What’s wrong with you?”
“What helps make things more accessible for you?”
“Do you have a superpower?”
“Want to tell me about your current special interest?”
“When are you going to get better?”
“How can I support you today without making assumptions?”
“Can’t you just push through it?”
“Would it help if I asked the venue about accessibility?”
“Have you tried yoga/essential oils/etc?
“Is there anything you wish more people understood about your body and/or anything that helps?”
“Are you faking it for attention?”
“How do you manage the invisibility of your illness in a world that doesn’t believe you?”
“Aren’t you too young to be disabled?”
“How has disability shaped your strength and softness in ways people overlook?”
“What’s your real name?”
“What name and pronouns should I use for you?”
“Have you had the surgery?”
“How can I support you when you’re feeling dysphoric?”
“When did you decide to be trans?”
“Is today a gender euphoria hoodie or a ‘don’t look at me’ day?”
"What’s in your pants?”
"How can I respect your body and boundaries without making it weird?”
“Are you sure you’re trans? Maybe it’s just a phase.”
"How did you come to understand your gender in your terms?”
"What do I call you now?”
"Would it feel good for me to correct others if they misgender you?”
"What if you regret transitioning?”
“What parts of your transition feel like coming home?”